tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3598902902672685977.post6840514494343227360..comments2023-07-07T01:03:14.559-07:00Comments on The Sexpressionists: The People that Exploit Those that Suffer from the Martyr ComplexUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3598902902672685977.post-30964545454553030992015-01-09T00:33:53.928-08:002015-01-09T00:33:53.928-08:00I have a client who has martyr complex. She asks m...I have a client who has martyr complex. She asks me to do things and I always make up excuses not to go. I always feel guilty and it's hard saying no to her over and over again, but everything in me tells me to avoid her like the plague! I can second guess myself and feel sorry for her, and feel like such a cold emotionally unavailable rejecting person, but I know I am not trying to hurt her by not being friends with her; I'm just trying to protect myself. I've dealt with this sort if person before. My sister has Borderline Personality Disorder and when I've tried to extend myself to her because I care about her I always seem to get sucked into her crazy making dysfunctional vortex. I don't know how to navigate that terrain and keep myself sane, so I just avoid it. I'm proud of myself for Keeping my boundaries but I wish I didn't feel so guilty about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3598902902672685977.post-22621238495760911952014-07-30T11:56:10.774-07:002014-07-30T11:56:10.774-07:00My sister is a martyr. She's too "giving&...My sister is a martyr. She's too "giving" and "nice" and can't say no to anyone. I have tried my best not to exploit her all these years, but all I get is guilt, guilt, guilt! because I can't give fill her psychological black hole of need. Everyone thinks she's so "nice" and I'm mean to her. I've had to grow tough to be able to resist her psychological manipulations. She will lie in a blink about even unimportant matters so that you'll feel sympathy for her or not think badly of her. I reflexively resist her manipulation but can't seem to avoid the guilt trip! If she was sincere I could accept but over 50 years I know her self sacrificing gestures and gifts are part of a sick need that I don't want to participate in! I recently thought, maybe I should let her give, it makes her happy, so I've been trying, and I guess I'll keep trying to accept at least when it seems harmless. I mean this is a woman who will take a large group out to dinner and insist on paying, but nobody but me realizes that she's using her rent money to do it. These people wouldn't want her evicted so they could have a free dinner. She's very self destructive in this way, and if you're her room mate, it makes for uneasy living! !! Somebody tell me I'm not the crazy one, the mean one, for making her unhappy by not cooperating with her delusion! Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3598902902672685977.post-4823449432724289012014-05-20T21:20:03.156-07:002014-05-20T21:20:03.156-07:00I have been doing some digging on martyr syndrome ...I have been doing some digging on martyr syndrome and I realized that me to a T. Growing up my mom was bi polar and VERY negative on life. She always seemed to remind me of my mistakes and only of my mistakes. So I have always felt and still do (I'm 31) not good enough and like a faliure to life. I now see I am being a martyr in my relationship. I now know I subconsciously did so just to be appreciated and praised. Pretty immature huh? I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. I guess all I can do is stop this cycle. Good luck to any of you who are going through this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3598902902672685977.post-60096771238761401902014-05-13T17:43:29.565-07:002014-05-13T17:43:29.565-07:00My mom is a martyr, I found that out a while ago a...My mom is a martyr, I found that out a while ago and I don't know what to do about it. She wasn't like this all the time, but it has gotten progressively worse. I don't even have anyone to talk to about it, it's not like she would really listen. I've never felt so stuck or alone before.Cali Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09032658442133151759noreply@blogger.com